We Remember
BASSINGTHWAIGHTE, Richard “Dale”
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Richard “Dale” Bassingthwaighte – a skilled and proficient carpenter, an avid lover and trainer of dogs, prolific and skilled fisherman (though he’d often pin this to luck), responsible hunter and lover of wildlife, entrepreneur, competent orchardist and meticulous gardener, a keen and winsome storyteller (paying much attention to detail), always looking soigné and debonair, died on February 05th, 2022. His hamartia being Parkinson Disease.
Wanting to regard himself as a misanthrope he was actually very good with people and could be quite the charmer. He worked a property out toward Casa Loma on which he assiduously tended to a small orchard of peach trees. The peaches he grew were above and beyond. When customers would arrive to buy, he would often engage in badinage with them while allowing them to taste the wares. The peaches always dripped with juice and sweetness. Dale would say to them “Don’t pig lip it, just take a bite” and then grin.
His trade was carpentry, and he was a finishing carpenter. Dale always took pride in his work, avoiding short cuts and paying attention to detail. He ensured he did it right the “first time” and avoided “doing it twice”. He worked for several years with Team Construction being involved in the building of many beautiful homes, luxury homes, in and around Kelowna. He also worked on the Summerland Research and Development Centre. When asked by his mother if he was the ‘boss’, Dale responded with “I’m not the boss, I’m the ‘king’”.
Dale had a great passion for wildlife and the outdoors. Fervent in both hunting and fishing, he exhibited responsibility, care, and deftness in both. Friends and family would be regaled with lasting, keen & winsome story telling of his adventures. Black bears, coyote, and bucks, they pause this day in relief, let a tear fall and splash to the ground. The fish swim free this day untethered by Dales’ hook. He was the only one they feared because on many occasions, no matter how many other fishermen Dale was with, he was the only one who incredulously brought in the catch.
Dogs would be in great care with Dale. Chesapeake, Shelty, Dachshund (his moms’) were all well trained beyond measure. (The dachshund left something to be desired, but then she was a dachshund) Dale, in training his first Chesapeake, met other dog owners whose dogs were more hunting dogs rather than just pets. This opened a world of bird hunting for Dale and yes, he brought home ribbons.
Using birds for training, Dale also ventured into the world of release doves. He became an entrepreneur with a business he named ‘Lovey Dovey White Dove Release’. He performed magic with these birds, using them for funerals, openings, special occasions, weddings. He even did a wedding as far away as Kamloops with all his birds returning to their dovecote here in Kelowna.
His feats of daring-do which led to many a broken bone, dislocated shoulder, and broken nose, included dirt bike racing and hockey. His calmer less dangerous activities included golfing, reading, singing and cooking. He made a mean chocolate cake, delicious Thai food, and killer peach pies. Dale also had a beautiful tenor voice and a flair for yodelling.
While working on the building of Aberdeen Hall Preparatory School, Dale met the love of his life, his heart throb and sweetheart, the most important person in his life, Dr. Barbara Hofmann. He would be heard saying, “I don’t have time for a wife”. However, when Barbara appeared he immediately became twitterpated with her and had no time for anything other than her. He truly loved her. Everyone he would meet he asked, “Have you met my wife?” and proudly, with great delight, introduce her. Barbara also brought into Dales’ life a daughter by the name of Jennifer.
They married in 2010 and Dale paralleled himself to “living a dream”, even formulating his email address to “livnadream”. Diagnosed with Parkinson Disease far too early in his life and in their marriage, Barbara was his foundation and support. Barbara’s’ great faith in her God brought Dales’ belief to the forefront and they together moved forward and lived their life to honor God.
Dale is survived by his siblings Ross (Edith) Bassingthwaighte, Corinne (Bob) Kreiger, Barry (Lee-Anne) Bassingthwaighte, Al’deen (Herb) Helwing, nieces and nephews, Kirk (Ciara), Erin (Stuart), Kelly, Nathan (Carli), Kelsey (Lorne). Also, just the right number of extras including aunts, cousins, their offspring etc.
Due to his desire to forfend a funeral, a small gathering for his inurnment will be held at the end of March. Dale also did not want an obituary written for him and did not want it placed in the newspaper. So please, whatever you do, do not tell Dale.
If you wish to send a condolence, post photos, or share a memory, please scroll down the page to the area called “Condolences”.
Got to know Dale through Barry in those early Okanagan Sun seasons back in the early 80″s. Would often run into Dale through the years around town and enjoy a highly intellectual but also humourous conversation catching up on old times and life in general. Take care Barry and family for he will truly be missed. Bob Patton
Thank you so much for your words Bob. Intellectual and humorous conversation – how true.
It was a privilege to have Dale as a dear friend. From being an avid enthusiast at getting into mischief as an adolescent to respectfully debating differences of opinions over coffee as old men, I enjoyed every encounter we had. I will miss Dale.. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to his family and friends for our loss.
Thank you so much for posting this photo of my good looking brother Dale. Thank you for being such a good friend.
This photo is very true to my remembrances of cousin Dale. My deepest condolences to all Dale’s family and friends.
Thank you Carol. Thank you also for your donation to the Kelowna Hospice House. How very thoughtful and kind.
It was 1982, maybe 81,I bought a 59 caddilac for $500.00. Yup, 500. It looked roughed. I was 21/22years old and with little thought of tomorrow. I went to a wrecker, pulled a tie rod off a 1960 and the spark plug wires and got the beast going. My older brother Dale convinced me to go halfs in it and fix it up. Man, we had fun in that car. Drivng a bowling alley down the road at 100. Going to miss you brother, see you on the other side.
Thanks Barry.
Dearest Barbara with my deepest sympathy.
I had the pleasure of getting to know Dale playing table tennis with him at Parkinsons Senior Centre. He was a very good player and always made me laugh with his quick wit and dry sense of humour. Dale always greeted everyone with that big smile that would light up the room. His optimism was such a gift to everyone. I always looked forward to hearing what special dish he had cooked for Barbara the night before. And the variety of pies he enjoyed baking.
His face would light up whenever he spoke of Barbara it was very obvious there’s was a very
A Very Special Love Story.
God bless you Dale, Your light will continue to shine.
Your friend, Trish Van Golen
Dale has successfully completed his earthly journey and entered into his Heavenly home…while we here on earth grieve the saints rejoice…We can hear “Well done thou good and faithful servant come in to me and rest”
We will always remember Dale – his very friendly manner & quick wit as we often met him outside in passing by your
house on Cara Glen Way…always a pleasure.
God’s Peace…His love & comfort to you Barbara & Jennifer
Dear Dwight & Heidi , Thank you for your kind words. Dale and I always enjoyed seeing your both in the neighborhood. Warm regards
I am heart broken of Dale’s passing. The short time I got to know him and spent time with him left me with great memories of him and his family warming my heart whenever I thought of him and I did often. My sincerest condolences to all members of the family. I will always cherish you in my heart Dale. Thank you for the happy and all the fun times.
With love Annie
Annie, thank you so much for your condolences. I so appreciate you reaching out. Dale and I had fun conversations including you. He always liked you, very much.
Hi Al’deen, thank you for your response and comment. You are in my thoughts.
Annie
I was saddened to hear of Dale’s passing. He was one of the “young people” my son’s age at church. My heartfelt condolence and love to the family. Dori
Thank you so much Dori. Dale would talk to me of how much he enjoyed hearing you sing when he would be over visiting your boys and your lovely voice could be heard in the house.
I got to know Dale in the early 1970’s racing motorcycles, we shared a cabin on Wood Lake for a while which was good for some adventures and misadventures. In our grey haired years we recalled laughing until our gut hurt. He was one of a kind and will be missed.
Thank you for your condolences Robin. After Dale (and you) moved out of that cabin on Woods Lake, a friend that I got to meet had moved in to the same cabin. I was surprised when I went to visit her that it was the same cabin. Dale got to come on over and re-visit by the lake on the same shore.
Robyn, ‘
Dale always spoke fondly of his friendship with you. Dale and I very much enjoyed visiting you at your place in Pemberton. Warm regards
Ross and Edith,
We didn’t know Dale, but we know bereavement only too well. So sorry to hear of your loss. Dale sound’s like he was an amazing individual, and we know you must be feeling his loss very deeply. Sending our thoughts and prayers to you at this very difficult time. ❤️
My deepest condolences to Barbara and Ross, Corinne, Al’Deen and Barry. He will be deeply missed by you, his family, and his friends. When I think of Dale many fond memories arise of our times together as cousins at the lake, playing together.
Sorry to hear of the loss of my cousin. I remember Dale from childhood family visits both in Kelowna and Ladysmith. kind thoughts from Susan, David and Janet, the children of Auntie Fern
Dear family: Our deepest condolences to each of you.
I can remember my cousin when the entire family would be at the cabin at the lake (Bees Buzz Inn) and our trips to BC.
You are in our thoughts and prayers. Debbie Matthews daughter of Auntie Audrey and Uncle Spence.